“Yes, all men must die. But we are not men.”
Date a girl who writes.
If it’s great to date a girl who reads, how much more if you date a girl who writes?
A girl who writes has developed her interest in writing because she had read so much. She had read wonderful stories and imagined the greatest stories.
Date a girl who writes. Not only she’ll take you to her imagination of greatest stories, she’ll write you a story. She’ll turn you into a character that once written will forever exist even after you are done dating her.
Date a girl who writes. She will not only give you fancy gifts but she will give a really wonderful story out of that simple gift. A story that will forever be remembered not only because of the story she has created with it but the thought, the imagination she has in her mind while choosing that gift.
Date a girl who writes. She’ll make an everyday routine so wonderful. She thinks fast, never runs out of wonderful ideas to make an ordinary day a special one. You’ll laugh as you see her turn a really serious situation into a funny one just to break the silence.
Date a girl who writes. She looks at things differently. Her interpretation of things is not as shallow as that of a girl whose everyday problem is her ootd. She analyzes things, every action. There’s always a “why” in almost everything that she does. Post a photo, she will not just look at it as it is. She can create a story in her mind, in five minutes, or maybe less.
Date a girl who writes. Fight with her and she will not be that girl who’s out in the club drinking beers till morning. Instead, she’ll turn into her pen and paper, or her laptop and will begin writing her emotions. She will not bleed blood out of depression, she will only bleed ink.
Date a girl who writes. She writes her emotions, if you want to know her better, begin reading her writings for you will know what’s inside her head. For you will know how she thinks. For you will know how she thinks stories should go and how it should end.
Date a girl who writes. Get done dating her and your memories will remain, in her works, not just in her heart, she will turn you into a wonderful form of art.
Date a girl who writes. She will take you to places. She will build memories with you. She will begin creating wonderful stories and you will always be a part of every story she’ll write.
Date a girl who writes. She loves stories which means yes, writing is her passion but she loves stories. She reads books, she watches all sorts of movies. You don’t have to take her to those fancy restaurants and expensive resorts. Take her to a movie or spend a night at home with a cup of coffee or a few bottles of beer or a wine and as simple as that, she’ll call it a really great night. She loves to talk, she loves conversations, and she loves discussions.
Date a girl who writes because if your love is true, then you deserve to have a girl like her. You deserve a girl who will let you in. You deserve a girl who can give you the most out of everything.
If a girl who writes fell in love with you, trust me, your story, if not yet written is on its way.
Everyone talks about love. Everyone is in search for true love, but have you ever thought of the difference between love and true love?
I have been a fan of not just love but true love. I have always wanted one true love. It’s crazy, I know. But the whole idea of falling in love and loving someone can make anyone crazy.
If you want to know what love really is, you have to talk about it for yourself, without anyone getting involved about the topic, without having someone as your basis; for you will rely on how intense the feeling was when you were still with that person.
Love is an effort, and true love requires greater effort. I have been known to be that person who believes in true love and now, after reading several articles about the same topic, I finally understood what I really meant when I said I want true love. I want not just visible efforts but that effort that I can feel without someone telling me all about it.
Yes, true love is about the greatest efforts. The effort of wanting to be together, the effort of wanting to make things work no matter how difficult the situation gets. As they say, if you think love is not working, increase the dose. And now I believe it to be true for when you give up, when you stopped making efforts, it’s not true love for you know for yourself that you can live without the other person but if it’s true love, the effort continues. It’s a never-ending battle to fight for what you have, to fight for the person you want to be with.
Love is not a hole you fall into. It’s like a mountain that you have to climb every day of your life while having the fear of reaching the peak. For when you reached the peak, you will be left with no other choice but to go down.
Love is not egoistic. Your efforts will always be for the both of you. If your efforts are all about feeling good about yourself without thinking about how the other person will feel about it, then that is not true love. That is you loving yourself, loving the life you have and the unwillingness to share it with the other person. Clearly, you just fell into the idea of being trapped in a hole, just because of the norms that the society dictates, that everyone deserves to have a partner. Let us not be scared to be alone. Sometimes, being alone will help you realize what you want, who you really want to be with and what it is that you really want to do in your life.
In our quest to find that one true love, we have our own set of standards, and it is never wrong. Love is a decision you make but of course, you should only limit yourself to those people who you have feelings with and not to those people who meets your standards but never in your dreams has become the love of your life.
Most people I know, after every heartbreak would go find another. They are all scared of the fact of growing old, alone. Yes, that is scary. But love knows no rush. Love has its own time. And so we say:
We had the right love at the wrong time.
If that is the case, you will be left with two options: you can together wait for the right time to come or simply just let go of each other.
The art of letting go.
To let go of someone is not about pride. It’s not about ego. It’s about you giving the other person the chance to find his one true love because the fact that he wants to go, he knows, you are not his one true love. Sad but true. But if you both believe that what you have is true, letting go will never be an option. You will keep on finding ways to be together. You will keep fighting.
Now the most dangerous part is when both of you were fighting to make the relationship work but for two different reasons. You fight for the relationship because you love the person while the other one fight for the relationship because the other satisfies his needs. And so, that is not true love.
It will be very difficult to distinguish love from true love if you do not know yourself, if you do not know what you want, if you do not know where to go. You can only know that it is that one true love when you know what you want. And you do the things you want not just because that is what the society tells you to do.
To end this confusing article, I would say that it is always better to be alone and know you more. For if you keep on jumping into those blind holes, you might end up hurting the one who truly loves you, and you will make that person think that it is not yet true love but just you loving the idea of having someone to love you. That you needed love but you still do not understand the idea of falling in love and loving someone.
If one person leaves, do not wait for them to come back. To leave the person who truly loves you is all about you knowing that the person you left is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Do not confuse yourself from the thought that love finds its way. True love is an effort and not something that you just fall into. To love someone is a choice and not something that just happens. Your life is not a movie, not a fairy tale. You are not a prince. She is not a princess. True love will make you feel like a prince and her, a princess. True love does not have a happy ending. It never ends.
And they lived happily ever after.
I love the idea of falling in love and everything that comes with it. I love sharing my life with the person i love, share my laughter and my tears. I love the idea of friendship with the person I fall in love everyday. I love to travel the world with nothing but love, visit places, fall in love with them and see the beauty of everything with the person I love. I love, Love.
Claire is a writer that never really embraced the idea of being one. She’s a writer that only writes her emotions, she wites real stories, no rules just experiences and lessons. She’s a lover of art in whatever form it may come. She wanders the world, no rights and wrongs but just the experience, the lessons that she will learn out of doing what she really wants to do, what makes her happy without thinking about the norms. But inspite of wanting to find her true happiness is the pressure of wanting to make everyone around her happy. And it started to break her. It started to make her so frustrated about everything.
John is a cool guy. He goes to places to have fun, well, just like Claire, he tries to find happiness but for different reasons. He’s that typical full-time corporate guy and a part time party animal. His life is simple. Just like how everyone does it, how everyone faces it. He lives by the norms, makes mistakes too but believes that it should always be what the society dictates to be right that should be done. He has the power to influence people, the power to put smiles to everyone around him, but he knows, there is still something missing. Something, that in his several years of existence, he is not sure what it was.
These two characters, both from different worlds, from different cultures, will eventually find what they are looking for in the most bizarre way.
Two decades ago, they both were just kids. Playing in the streets; do not even have the idea of what the world has to offer. Just like any other kids would do, they were friends and piss each other off once in a while but never did the day end that they are enemies. They had always been friends, pissing each other off in the simplest, childlike ways.
A typical love story, they were separated in time. At that point, they were kids. They do not know the feeling of how it was like to be separated from each other. As kids, your playmates come and go. They can be here now but gone tomorrow. And their games continue without realizing that their favorite friend is gone.
Several years has passed. They both remember how it was like to be with each other. But they have forgotten who they were with. Yes, faces look familiar, the memories are there, but the names, the names have been forgotten.
While they were growing up, Claire has met a lot of people. Fell in love, disappointed, fell in love again, got her heart broken but never completely shut her off from everything that happens for a reason.
John, we may not know what really happened to him all those years, but he was growing up. He was experiencing life, lost his way but managed to come back. When you move to a completely different place where you grew up, there will always be a part of you that will lead you back to where you came from. The places, the experiences, the people, we do not know. But there is this one person he know from his heart that he once knew but never was he able to figure out who that person is. The name sounds familiar. The memories are still a blur, but he knows that there is something about this girl he’s completely unaware of, but it was the beat in his heart that he knows, “I know this girl”.
Claire never really remembered everything from her childhood. She was invisible. She was no one. She has this incapability of getting attached to people, of remembering memories. It must be what experience has taught her; everybody leaves and an attachment will just give her pain and so she believes that there really is no need for an emotional attachment. People come and go.
At some point in their lives, because of the power of the internet and social media becoming a way of life, they once again met. At first, it was as simple as hi and hello, how have you been doing. But the constant communication brought them together. Closer.
It was not their plan to become a couple. They never really wanted it for several reasons:
1. The distance. They live several miles away from each other.
2. The thought that he/she is not just any random guy/girl he/she met at the bar, at a party, at the beach. He/she is a family, so special, so fragile.
3. They have a past that could create chaos, that could create trouble and that could lead to hurting each other. That could lead to disappointment. And they know, He/she is the last person he/she would want to hurt.
But it happened. No matter how hard they tried to stop the feeling of falling in love with each other, it happened. The feeling was so intense that they were not able to control it. And so they agreed:
“Maybe it won’t work out. But maybe seeing if it does will be the best adventure ever.”
As they go through each day as a couple, they were surprised to know how they were able to make the relationship work. In spite of the distance. In spite of their unsupportive friends. Well, no one really believes that a long distance relationship is a good idea. How could you call it a relationship when two people were not even together?
As for them, it’s working because they were both trying to make it work.
Days and weeks. Phone calls, video calls, doodles. Like any other long distance relationships, they became so creative in finding ways on how to make each other feel how special the relationship is to each other. Everything is just in its right place, except for the distance.
People say, no one would really know if it is really working not until you see each other. Not until you have spent time together. Not until you saw how bad one could become when fighting.
A year has passed, and the day has finally come. They will see each other.
Cold sweaty hands, heart beats so fast. What is going to happen if I will be a disappointment?
They both thought that their differences will bring them apart. An introvert and an extrovert, let’s see if they can make it work together just like how they had made it work when they’re not.
Fights, ugly ones.
But their love has always brought them back together.
“I never thought that this day would come. That there will be you and me. Who would have thought that your gradeschool seatmate will become the most important person in your life? Who would have thought that you will be spending the rest of your life with that little boy who knew nothing but take your pencils and eraser everyday? Who would have thought that inspite of the distance, we were able to make this work? Who would have thought.
It was almost three decades ago when I met you. We were just kids. And now we’re here, about to make a promise that we will always be beside each other, to support each other, to fight for each other, to fight together and to survive life’s battles together. Even when we were just beginning to rebuild that friendship that we once lost, I have already started building my dreams with you in it. I have started to see the future and you’re in it. I already saw myself grow old with you.
I love you. I love every piece of you. I love your imperfections. My life with you all these years is an experience that is just too beautiful to put into words. Today, Im giving you myself, please take my heart. I will not ask you to not break them because I know loving someone so much can always break someone’s heart. Im giving it to you anyway because I know, you’re the only person who has every right to break it, because you’re the only person who can. Time is not always kind, and I can’t expect everything and everyone to be on our side, but I am taking the risk. I am taking the risk because that’s how you should love, and I know, and I can feel it every day, that you really did love me, from the beginning.
Let us grow old together. Let us begin building our lives together. Let us continue to share wonderful experiences together. I will hold your hand so tight that I promise I wont let you lose your way back to me.”
Wedding bells. Wines. Birds. Smiles. Laughters. Cheers.
Claire is a writer with the wildest thoughts. She transforms everything into art. She dreams, she imagines.
The truth is, their story never ended that way. It was all just an imagination. The story has ended. The book has been closed. And they lived happily ever after, separately.